when the organizer of the rubber social says you look familiar and asks where he knows you from and you’re not sure whether it is because you are a local author of note or because at some point when you were blindfolded at a function he was one of the people inside you

scarlet-sasquatch:

gnomer-denois:

woke-up-on-derse:

onemanstampede:

some fools be like “i play games to escape my responsibilities” then pick tank or healer

in my greatest fantasies i am able to help people

In my fantasies I can prevent people from being hurt, even if it means I get hurt in their stead.

In my fantasies i dont have to know how to aim

robin-the-robo:
“avoidantknife:
“I feel like a mom on facebook reblogging this but I genuinely like it. I want to make this into a full size poster and put it in my 3rd grade classroom but I’m 20 yrs old and not a teacher
” ”

robin-the-robo:

avoidantknife:

I feel like a mom on facebook reblogging this but I genuinely like it. I want to make this into a full size poster and put it in my 3rd grade classroom but I’m 20 yrs old and not a teacher

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testdevice:

This is The Dr Laura game me and @drdemonprince will be playing today. Dr Laura is a conservative radio talk show host (who while she’s no longer on the radio does still do her show online!) And this is a game about deciding whether your friends advice is “as good” or “not as good” as Dr Laura’s advice (never better obviously). There just an obscene amount of cards like the one I’ve pictured here, with advice ranging from totally unhinged to sometimes surprisingly reasonable, making it hard to guess what she’s gonna say!

box cover for The Dr.Laura game featuring very 90s art and text like:   I am my kids mom.  no excuses, just solutions.  Character, courage, conscious   morality mattersALT
back of the box:  What would Dr. Laura Say? What would you say?  It's all about Character, Courage & Conscience in this talk-provoking game of ethical and moral dilemmas! You'll play three versions - Preach, Teach, and Nag based on actual phone calls from listeners  who seek opinions about work, family, friendship, and love. Wrestle with the issues. Come up with your best responses. Debate with others about theirs. You may not see eye-to-eye, but you can bet Dr. Laura will get you talking!  Dr. Laura Schlessinger has millions of listeners coast to coast, and she tells it like she hears it. in addition, she's a best-selling author, a contributing editor to USA Weekend, and has been a guest on various national TV programs.  All of Dr. Laura's proceeds from the sale of this game go to the Dr. Laura Schlessinger Foundation.  "My 13-year-old lives with her father. When she comes to visit, she wears a spiked collar I've asked her to stop. she says she just won't visit. Do I stick to my guns?"ALT
side of the box with logoALT
actual board, vaguely shaped like a phone keypad with spaces 1 through 9ALT
board, pawns, and d6 with teach, preach, and nagALT
board and part of instructions:  the Dr.Laura For 3 to 6 adult players game  Quick Rules  Roll the die to pick a Preach, Teach, or Nag card.  • PREACH.  Select a player to be a Dr. Laura "fill-in." Read the dilemma out loud. The player gives an answer, and everyone votes on whether it's as good as Dr. Laura's. If it is, the player moves forward one space. If it isn't, the turn ends.  • TEACH  See if players can guess Dr. Laura's real answer to a dilemma. Those who do move forward one space. If no one guesses correctly, you move  forward.  NAG.  Listen to everyone's responses to a dilemma. Decide which player's response comes closest to Dr. Laura's. That player moves forward one space.  CONTENTS:  1 gameboard  1 Preach, Teach, and Nag die  600 dilemmas-200 Preach, 200 Teach,  and 200 Nag-on 300 double-sided cards  3 organizing separators for cards  • 6 pawns  18 voting chips  SETUP  Choose a pawn and put it on the "Start" space on the gameboard. Place the Preach, Teach, and Nag cards and the organizing separators in the slots provided. Give an A, B & C voting chip to each player.  OBJECT  To discuss various issues and be the first player to reach the center of the gameboard.  GAMEPLAY  The oldest player goes first.  ON YOUR TURN:  Roll the die to determine whether to draw from the Preach, Teach, or Nag cards. Draw the first card from the appropriate category.  If you roll a...  PREACH CARD:  • Select another player to "fill in" for Dr. Laura.  Read the dilemma as if you were the call-in guest. Start off with the words, "Hi, Dr. [player's name]."  Everyone listens while the player gives advice. Read Dr. Laura's actual response out loud.  • Everyone votes on the player's advice by saying it Is "as good" or "not as good" as Dr. Laura's actual response.  Tally the votes.  If the majority agree the player's advice was "as good" as Dr. Laura's, the player moves forward one space. If the majority agree the advice was "not as good" as Dr. Laura's, the turn ends, and the player does not move forward.ALT
a "Preach" card:    Hi, Dr. Laura   Can you help me? I've been married for 11 years and have 3 small children. My wife wants us to have an open marriage and be free to have affairs. She says it will make her happier. If I don't agree, she will not pursue it. What do you think if both of us consent?  WHAT DR. LAURA WOULD HAVE SAID:  OK, go ahead, but give me your kids while you do immoral things to undermine your relationship. Come on, you know better, it would be totally destructive. One's personal happiness is not the loftiest goal of humanity.ALT
board game with cat tax: cat looking up at camera inquisitivlyALT

We’ll be talking about this and how to find and grill a therapist at 12cdt 2edt!


reauxsrecollection:

Who was involved in the creation of the DSM-5?

The American Psychiatric Association owns the DSM. They aren’t only responsible for it: they own it, sell it, and license it. The DSM is created by a group of committees. It’s a bureaucratic process. In place of scientific findings, the DSM uses expert consensus to determine what mental disorders exist and how you can recognize them. Disorders come into the book the same way a law becomes part of the book of statutes. People suggest it, discuss it, and vote on it. Homosexuality was deleted from the DSM by a referendum. A straight up vote: yes or no. It’s not always that explicit, and the votes are not public. In the case of the DSM-5, committee members were forbidden to talk about it, so we’ll never really know what the deliberations were. They all signed non-disclosure agreements.

Hope Reese, The Real Problems With Psychiatry

a funny thing about this is like if finding out a culturally important text was decided by committee disturbs you and makes you aware of the socially constructed nature of all thought, wait till you hear about the bible

Lady Gaga has managed to stay relevant and to evolve with emerging pop music trends without seeming desperate for attention or coattail riding. And that’s because she’s been very deliberate in only adopting new tools and sounds and working with new artists when she has a genuine enthusiasm for it, and can incorporate it into her own artistic style easily, rather than being appropriative of youth culture for the sake of seeming youthful. it’s the enthusiasm for new sounds and new relationships that comes through, rather than an insecure need to pursue newness.

Gaga also borrows and adapts from older, less cool musical styles just as freely – country music, jazz standards, stage musicals, glitter rock. She’s not grasping to remain current and interesting, she just is interested in a great many things, some of them new, some of them not. and she plays with all of her toys with equal verve.

It reminds me of how Tom and Lorenzo have discussed the role of fashion trends in the life of an aging stylish person. (and lets face it honey we are all aging, regardless of if we’re stylish!). They said none of us should chase after every new runway trend or adopt the ones that don’t feel natural to us, nor should we bristle at change and the cyclical nature of what’s considered cool or view that as a threat or some kind of attack. (cue all the old millennials ranting on tiktok about how they love their side swept hair cuts).

Instead, we should look to the rotating cast of faces and new styles as an array of new options, and recycled old trends as familiar options being cast in a new light. We can take and play with any new trend that interests us, or be happy that a thing we used to love is back in style, because it gives us new occasions to play with it, but we don’t have to obsess over whether we’re up-to-the-moment cool at all times or not. Developing and maintaining our own style is the fun part. we are the painters. the new trends are just stores releasing new formulations of paint.

And I think that idea can translate to a lot of forms of art and expression and just to general attitudes toward generational change pretty well.

This man really is like, the most kin ever to me

I am looking forward to the stream on Friday, I think I’ve mentioned previously that your writing on the topic of therapy has made me somewhat more nihilistic about the idea of ever finding a therapist who can help me in a meaningful way. In the past I put way too much belief into the idea that accessing regular therapy could ‘fix’ me, and I’m glad to be firmly over that naive view now. But with that said, I do know that if I am going to find someone capable of helping with some limited elements of my life I will need to be persistent in filtering professionals, I’m hoping Friday’s stream could help me feel a bit more confident about that.

testdevice:

drdemonprince:

I hope the stream provides exactly that kind of motivation & toolkit to you! The goal is to always arm people with realistic expectations and the power to self-advocate to get the most they can from a shitty situation.

(For those who don’t know, @testdevice and I are doing a stream this Friday on Finding (and Grilling) a Potential Therapist. We’ll also be playing the Dr. Laura board game which is terrible and very good. Twitch.tv/drdevonprice, Friday at 12 cst 1 est )

I FORGOT ABOUT THE DR LAURA PART THIS IS GONNA BE GREAT

testdevice:

thesnadger:

I spent last night looking at Neocities sites and here are my takeaways:

There’s a real push to keeping the internet weird, open and less corporate-driven – info on bypassing paywalls, protecting your data, archiving web media and basic coding/tech literacy.

(I found one tutorial on how to make a pop up that detects whether someone has an ad blocker and suggests they install one if they don’t! Love that.)

There’s also resources on finding the kind of internet that isn’t the default experience anymore - alternate search engines I hadn’t even heard of, human-made link lists and webrings. (Webrings! Turns out they never went away!)

If any of that sounds interesting to you, by the way - sadgrl.online has a lot of it and is possibly the best thing on the internet????

The “90’s web” aesthetic is really fun and nostalgic, but I particularly loved seeing some people bring the better parts of the “modern internet” into it. What if we had weird, eye-searing personal sites BUT with plaintext alternatives for accessibility purposes? CW for flashing lights and unreality triggers?

(Again sadgrl comes in with a lot of resources for making your website accessible.)

Most of all, I’m honestly emotional about all the sites I found that were like, “hi! I’m 14 and this is my website where I talk about stuff I like haha.”

It’s so good that so many kids and teens who never experienced the “old internet” are still finding stuff like this and making their own weird stuff! Not just because weird websites are more fun, but because these skills are being passed down.

Anyway it’s great and who knows maybe I’ll make my own site sometime to keep horror media recommendations or something.

@drdemonprince I think dr devon price’s internet show featuring producer madeline needs a neocities site

oooh yes

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